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		<title>Tantra &#8211; Being an Instrument of Life</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Tantra &#8211; what used to be a whole spiritual path, has been abused and misunderstood to be mere unbridled promiscuity, especially in the West. In Tantra &#8211; Being an Instrument of Life, Sadhguru redefines tantra, restoring it to its original scope and dimension as an ancient technology for ultimate transformation. Click To Play]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Tantra &#8211; what used to be a whole spiritual path, has been abused and misunderstood to be mere unbridled promiscuity, especially in the West. In Tantra &#8211; Being an Instrument of Life, Sadhguru redefines tantra, restoring it to its original scope and dimension as an ancient technology for ultimate transformation.</p>
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		<title>&#8216;Unclean&#8217; blood</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 09 Sep 2008 12:23:10 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Many refer to it as ‘nature’s curse on women’. It’s commonly thought of as unclean. In some cultures, women are not even allowed to cook during those days of month. But, path-breaking new research could change the way people view the menstrual cycle. And it’s here in India, for the first time ever. The blood [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<blockquote><p>Many refer to it as ‘nature’s curse on women’. It’s commonly thought of as unclean. In some cultures, women are not even allowed to cook during those days of month. But, path-breaking new research could change the way people view the menstrual cycle. And it’s here in India, for the first time ever. The blood that uselessly leaks away from a woman’s body every month until she hits menopause is a good source of stem cells, which are still at an early stage of development and retain the potential to turn into many different types of cell.</p></blockquote>
<p>Traditionally there is a huge taboo on menstruation here, but it&#8217;s nice to see <a title="'Unclean' blood may save life" href="http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/HealthSci/Unclean_blood_may_save_life/articleshow/3453872.cms" target="_blank">this</a> article turn that on its head.</p>
<blockquote><p>Research is ongoing but if established as a success, it would be a huge advance for stem cell research. Stem cell therapy has become controversial in some parts of the world because scientists believe the most useful ones come from embryos. Adult stem cells are rare in mature tissue. But if they are sourced from hitherto-useless, “unclean” menstrual blood, it would redefine the woman’s role as life-giver.</p></blockquote>
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		<title>Not for the faint-hearted: TOI on sexual lib</title>
		<link>http://beckyblab.com/not-for-the-faint-hearted-toi-on-sexual-lib/332/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 03 Sep 2008 11:02:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[The O-zone on Sunday covered the new trend among 20-30 something women, most of whom are still single, going all out for one-night stands and no strings attached. Sexcapades of young women, their casual attitude towards flings and open declaration that sex is just a physical need like any other, lead one to wonder how [...]]]></description>
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<p>The <a title="O-zone: Girly sexcapades" href="http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/3427458.cms" target="_blank">O-zone</a> on Sunday covered the new trend among 20-30 something women, most of whom are still single, going all out for one-night stands and no strings attached.</p>
<blockquote><p>Sexcapades of young women, their casual attitude towards flings and open declaration that sex is just a physical need like any other, lead one to wonder how this new-found sexual freedom affects society and in particular, matrimony.</p></blockquote>
<p>A good enough opening, but the article actually emphasised women&#8217;s personal empowerment more than any larger social impact. Unfortunately, but not unexpectedly, there was little analysis of traditional gender roles. For example,</p>
<blockquote><p><span style="font-size: 10pt;">“I get a great sense of liberation from being able to just get up in the morning, put on my clothes and walk away without any emotional baggage or need for commitment.” </span></p>
<p><span style="font-size: 10pt;"> Sounds like a man, some would say. Yes, that’s exactly what seems to have happened. Women have joined the guys in their uninhibited, no-responsibility nocturnal romps. And, much to the delight of the men, they come to them without baggage — no clinging, no tears, no emotional breakdowns and above all, no demands to declare everlasting love and attachment. In fact, the new woman seems to run away as fast as any man from the ‘C’ word — commitment. </span></p></blockquote>
<p>Even though some young women may still be having fun while they still can, there&#8217;s still an understanding that at the end of it all, they&#8217;ll eventually &#8216;settle down&#8217; and become good wives.</p>
<blockquote><p><span style="font-size: 10pt;">The freedom brought about by stepping out of home (very often, small towns), financial independence and jobs that entail wide travel, is a heady one. Marriage, whatever said and done, does bring with it restrictions that girls wish to push off as far as possible. So these young girls are happy being in relationships that mean good fun and sex, but no settling down. That can come later, it seems. As a young IT professional from Mumbai confesses, “I have asked my parents to start looking for a match for me. I’ve had my fun, gone through lots of relationships and want to settle down now.” </span></p></blockquote>
<p>The article briefly touched upon Indian &#8216;morality&#8217;, saying that those who talk about it</p>
<blockquote><p>find themselves pretty marginalised today. <span style="font-size: 10pt;">There is a fairly widespread tolerance for, if not acceptance of, women’s need for fun. Moral strictures and codes of conduct sound not just outdated, but anachronistic. Enough that even those who mouth them question their validity! </span></p></blockquote>
<p>This kind of sweeping generalisation gets to me. BJP (India&#8217;s conservative party), marginalised? Widespread tolerance for women&#8217;s fun needs? Yes, they may be anachronistic, but the strictures and codes are still very much the norm for the majority of women in India. It is the tiniest of minorities of women, in India&#8217;s biggest cities, that can even think of enjoying the kind of freedoms that this article claims to be the privilege of the many.</p>
<p>Nonetheless, this group of women may be rather numerically large, even if not a significant proportion of the greater population. And regardless, the mere fact of a shifting pattern of relationships among certain women must be cause for celebration, in that they are going against the tide and trying out different arrangements for themselves. That too, in a county where kissing in public is still taboo. (There was another article on &#8220;Unkissable Indians,&#8221; how foreigners doing business here have been warned to keep their cheeks to themselves.) I just hope they are using <a title="condoms" href="http://beckyblab.com/you-know-you-want-a-condom-ringtone/294/" target="_blank">protection</a>&#8230;</p>
<p>Interestingly, on the front page of the TimesLife! section was an article called &#8220;Casual Casanovas,&#8221; featuring the trend among men to take numerous lovers. Yet the articles seem to speak over one another.</p>
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		<title>Harrassment, etc</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 26 Aug 2008 04:46:14 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[The Washington Post had an in-depth piece on Indian women&#8217;s status. It starts off discussing &#8216;eve-teasing&#8217;, i.e. harrassment, but then delves into the whole range of issues from dowry to sex-selective abortion: For India&#8217;s middle-class urban women, the past decade has brought unprecedented opportunities to advance in a social order long dominated by men. But [...]]]></description>
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<p>The <a title="In India, New Opportunities for Women Draw Anger and Abuse From Men" href="http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2008/08/24/AR2008082401665.html" target="_blank">Washington Post</a> had an in-depth piece on Indian women&#8217;s status. It starts off discussing &#8216;eve-teasing&#8217;, i.e. harrassment, but then delves into the whole range of issues from dowry to sex-selective abortion:</p>
<blockquote><p>For India&#8217;s middle-class urban women, the past decade has brought unprecedented opportunities to advance in a social order long dominated by men. But a powerful male backlash has accompanied the women&#8217;s revolution, an upwelling of resentment that has expressed itself in sexual violence and harassment.</p>
<p>At the same time, however, the number of reported instances of domestic violence, rape and dowry killings is spiking in South Asian cities, according to women&#8217;s groups, demographers and sociologists.</p>
<p>Violence against women is the fastest-growing crime in India, a recent study concluded. Every 26 minutes a woman is molested, every 34 minutes a rape takes place, and every 43 minutes a woman is kidnapped, according to the Home Ministry&#8217;s National Crime Records Bureau.</p></blockquote>
<p>Novellist and commentator Shobhaa De is quoted as saying:</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;The latest statistics are terrifying. And it clearly points to male rage. Underneath our incredible social change, the Indian male is experiencing nothing short of a psychological frenzy.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>The article highlights the <a title="Smile foundation" href="http://www.smilefoundationindia.org/" target="_blank">Smile Foundation</a> for its attempts to address the issues through &#8220;self-respect and self-esteem sessions&#8221; and street theater.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s worth noting that while India ranks fifth highest in reported rapes, the United States ranks highest in the world. Yet I don&#8217;t think an article discussing gender dynamics in the US is likely to be covered by the WashPo in a similar manner.</p>
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		<title>Thanks Jade Goody</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 25 Aug 2008 10:21:17 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[For publicising the risk of cervical cancer. And I hope you will be fine. According to TOI, The exit of British television celebrity Jade Goody from the reality show Big Boss was a shocker. But what surprised most was the revelation of the fatal disease – cervical cancer that Goody was detected with. The word [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>For publicising the risk of cervical cancer. And I hope you will be fine.</p>
<p>According to <a title="All about India's commonest cancer : Cervical Cancer" href="http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articlelist/articleshow/3399745.cms" target="_blank">TOI</a>,</p>
<blockquote><p>The exit of British television celebrity Jade Goody from the reality show Big Boss was a shocker. But what surprised most was the revelation of the fatal disease – cervical cancer that Goody was detected with. The word &#8216;Cervic Cancer&#8217; since then has been googled infinite times (according to Google Trends) in the past one week thus revealing the immense curiosity, coupled with a lack of awareness about the cancer.</p>
<p>The growing risk of cervical cancer in women in India (aged 0-64 years) is 2.4% compared to 1.3% for the world.</p></blockquote>
<p>Since I don&#8217;t really trust the TOI as a source of reliable information, especially when it comes to health, please click <a title="Cancer.gov" href="http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/types/cervical" target="_blank">here</a> for more information regarding prevention and treatment of this cancer.</p>
<p>I was amazed to read <a title=" Goody's fears for sons' future" href="http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/entertainment/7578307.stm" target="_blank">this</a>:</p>
<blockquote><p>Since the age of 16, Goody said she has had four smear tests to detect cervical cancer, which all showed up pre-cancerous cells in her womb.</p>
<p>She said she had had treatment three weeks ago following an abnormal smear test, after she collapsed at her home in Essex.</p>
<p>But she was given the all-clear and decided to go ahead with the India trip because she was being paid £100,000 and needed the money, she said.</p></blockquote>
<p>Cervical cancer is entirely preventable when detected early, by smear tests and there are common techniques available to remove the pre-cancerous cells. Is it the fault of the NHS for not providing her this treatment? <a title="Cancer battle " href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-1048769/Cancer-battle-given-strength-visit-estranged-fathers-grave-says-terrified-Jade-Goody.html" target="_blank">The Mail</a> says:</p>
<blockquote><p>Her publicist Max Clifford, who is paying for the tests, says her condition should have been diagnosed earlier.</p>
<p>He said: &#8216;What has happened to Jade is very wrong and very worrying.</p>
<p>&#8216;According to the doctor I have put her in touch with this should have been diagnosed a long time ago.</p>
<p>&#8216;Thankfully Jade is now with the best people there are, having thorough investigations and then the treatment she desperately needs.&#8217;</p></blockquote>
<p>In the US, the HPV vaccine, <a title="Who's Afraid of Gardasil?" href="http://www.thenation.com/doc/20070326/houppert" target="_blank">Gardasil</a>, has come under much scrutiny and huge debates have ensued (mostly among conservatives) over whether or not the mandatory vaccination of girls may promote sexual activity.</p>
<p>Apparently in the UK the &#8216;jab&#8217; will be routinised amongst 12-13 year old girls next month, and <a title="Jab" href="http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/politics/health/2614196/Cervical-cancer-jab-for-women-aged-19-to-24.html" target="_blank">The Telegraph</a> reports that now older women may be eligible for it:</p>
<blockquote><p>Professor Margaret Stanley, an adviser to the HPV sub-group of the Joint Committee for Vaccination and Immunisation, described the move as a &#8220;remarkable volte-face&#8221;.</p>
<p>&#8220;Vaccinating older girls and women who have active sexual lives will have an effect but it will be much less than immunising the virgins,&#8221; she said.</p>
<p>&#8220;There is the real anxiety that these older girls and women may think that they had had a magic bullet, are protected, don&#8217;t go for their smears and the cancers aren&#8217;t picked up at an early stage.&#8221;</p>
<p>Ministers at the Department of Health were said to have chosen the cheaper Cervarix vaccine over the more expensive Gardasil to avoid any extra expense.</p>
<p>A DoH spokeswoman confirmed ministers were considering a possible extension: &#8220;We are looking at the most effective uses for the vaccine and are currently assessing the strengths and weaknesses of offering it to over 18s, including cost effectiveness.&#8221;</p>
<p>But she added: &#8220;There is no evidence that extending the vaccination to over 18s would deter women from having smear tests. Receiving the vaccine could in fact provide an opportunity to remind women of the need for screening.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
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